Trigger warning: In this article I write about some hard and violent experiences that might be triggering for you.
“I’ve been raped!”
“I’ve been raped”. When I was 14 years old, a good friend of mine wrote this in a note and passed it to me. Her pain, shame and feelings of guilt were bigger than her capacity to speak out loud.
“My husband hits me but just the right amount”. This is the sad testimonial I once read in a newspaper. She was the victim of an abusive relationship. There are many other women in similar situations.
“I have cancer. They are going to remove my breasts”. A very common sentence that is heard in any home, across the world.
These are just three examples of very hard and traumatic situations that women all over the world suffer from, just for the mere fact of being women.
The healing power of bellydance
For a reason that has not been scientifically proven yet (I so wish someone could do the research!) bellydance has enormous power to bring back a woman’s self esteem, even when she was not aware she had lost it.
Bellydance for me was also of great help in the past, and it’s still helping me now in the present.
In my 15 year long career as a belly dance teacher, I’ve witnessed amazing transformations in my students:
- Women that couldn’t even look at themselves in the mirror, who end up proudly showing their bellies in class.
- Women with agoraphobia who excitedly perform on a stage after years of not being able to get out of their houses.
- Women who approach me after class to tell me how belly dance has helped them to work on their self-esteem or helped them in their therapeutic process.
- Women who decided to not kill themselves because they had made a committment to perform with their class mates.
These were women experiencing dreadful traumas who found in belly dance a source of strength, and resources to help them cope with their problems.
After all these years teaching the “general public” and seeing such big transformations, I found Charlotte Desorgher (or she found me, I still don’t know) and I was offered to work on this beautiful project, which is what I wanted to write about today.
Offering free belly dance lessons to women who are recovering from trauma.
We call it Bellydance for Joy!
Yes, once a week I go and teach belly dance to women who have recently escaped from abusive ex-partners and violent, life-threatening situations .
According to the professionals who work with the women, belly dance helps them reconcile with their bodies and with the present moment. A major issue for victims of trauma in general, is the difficulty in staying present: they are usually very worried about the uncertain future or stuck in harrowing memories of the past.
Many of us still need to be reminded that we have the right to enjoy our bodies – to move our bodies with freedom. And this is part of my job, to offer women the chance to enjoy their bodies by teaching them how to belly dance.
Since July 2017, I’ve been involved as a belly dance teacher in this inspirational project, and to this day I wouldn’t trade it for anything else: the satisfaction I feel when I see the women smile, when they giggle learning how to shimmy or to isolate a chest movement, is immense!
This is why I wrote this article and why I always spread the word about this project. I’m convinced that these classes are a breath of fresh air for these women.
Because a world with happy women is a fairer and better world. More dance equals less suffering, that’s simply how it is.
PS If you are curious about my personal story, you can read about it here: How to be a good dancer even if you don’t look like one.
Zahida Palma is a belly dance teacher and dancer, founder of dancepandemic.com, a blog where she shares her visions, articles and tutorials about this beautiful dance form.
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